Category: Dating and Relationships
Ok, so I have several friends who are waiting on the right guy/girl. I don't see anything necessarily wrong with it, but I feel like a lot of people who do this expect that perfect person to fall into their laps. What do you guys think? Also, if you are just chatting to people, would you consider that waiting? This is an issue I've been thinking about a lot and I just wanted other's opinions.
Hmm, just chatting? If you're chatting with a girl or guy, I would think you're checking them out..trying to see if they'd be a good match. So no, people look for love in many different ways these days.
For example, I met my boyfriend through a dating web site. Fortunately, he lives close to me so we see each other a couple times a week.
Yeah, I consider chatting sort of looking. You are, at the very least, keeping your eyes and ears open.
I think if you're a sighted, you may look at his face and it's changes while chatting. I'm sure body language is powerful one. but blind people can only stick on with tap tap tapady communication. I mean the text chat or the audio communications.
Also I too believe, communication is the key for knowing someone. Even though there are many fakers around, we can see how attractive he or she is by talking or discussing few things. so communication is a good powerful key.
Raaj
I don't think there's any such thing as the 1 *right person. I think there are multiple people that can fill that role throughout one's life for most people.
No, not right or wrong person. And if you don't seek how you gonna find anyone at all?
chatting is tricky since you might consider getting to know them, and might feel thata your making progress in how they are so you can possibly date them and the other person might just be trying to be nice and going along with what ever your saying. Us sighted folk rely on eye contact for sure.
I also think there is no such thing as right person for anyone. someone might provide them with something and someone else might provide them with something else. Its all based on perception.
I have to agree with poster 6, but I do know lots of women especially who have said "I'm waiting on the right guy," and I'm like "you'll be single forever." I mean, there's nothing wrong with having an idea of what you want, but as you get older and have more life experience, that often changes. Also, you really shouldn't have a "list" to go by either. I've seen a lot of women do that, and they have a hard time finding anyone because their requirements are so out there. I'm not saying don't have standards. That's not it, but be willing to be flexible. At least a little bit anyway. LOL, I've said all this and I'm single.:) I'm just describing what I'm seeing.
waiteing is great. but keep your. eyes. and ears. open. you. never. know. smilely.
I'm keeping them all opened for a long time. lol. no love alarm yet. hmmmm?
Raaj.
don't settle for less than what you deserve, but don't turn someone good down just because they have one quirk you don't like. You can work with that and then decide whether it's a deal breaker for you or not.
I'm in fact a very picky man. that's what all my friends used to say. but I'm picky with few things like, mainly voice, secondly cleanliness, and of course honesty. As per the physic, I like long hair and fluffy ...
Once if a girl telling me a lie and I'll never believe her again. even if she's telling me the truth.
So I guess being picky is not a bad thing, as long as you're bit flexible with that. We all may be having an imagination about our future partner in mind. but we cannot say we can get a partner everything we've imagined. also we shouldn't reject a good offer which is with minor problems. Life is nothing but give and take, I say.
Raaj.
Ack, you mean just waiting around for things to happen without even trying to do anything in order to get what you want? Might as well take out a marriage license on your dreams and ideals because come Saturday night when everyone else is having fun, that's all you're going to have. I think, even if you have to go the long way round, if you want something, you have to find a way to get hold of it yourself. Love and happiness and somebody to enjoy such things with do not just appear by wishing or as gifts for good behavior.
I guess like someone already said, you'll know when you've met that right person.
I used to think that too, you know when you've found the right person. The thing is, most of the time, why else do you get into a relationship? Oh sure, there's sexual compatibility, which only takes you so far, but isn't that person right for your expectations at that particular moment if you're looking for a good time? And, if you do get into a serious relationship with someone, you're not going to go into it thinking it's not going to work out. Even if you figure that out later, there has to have been a time you truthfully believed that person was fulfilling your needs, even if you weren't planning marriage or anything. Am I making sense?
thinking you've found someone only to be wrong is common and has happened to me.
I think relationships are like many things. You have to get in there and experience things to know what you want and what you don't want. It doesn't matter what your friends or the fashion magazines or the movies or society itself tells you what you want, you have to come to understand it by experiencing stuff. My first serious relationship had its good bits and its problems, but it showed me what I did and didn't want in the next one and now that I'm in the next one and very happily married, I just couldn't be happier.
I definately agree with the previous poster's comments. With every relationship, you learn something new about yourself. I want to clear something up, I'm not waiting for something to "fall in my lap." A friend of mine made the comment to me that that's what she was doing, and I wanted to hear other people's prospectives. I think it's one thing if for example, you aren't ready to date to not look of course, but to me, other than that, at least be aware of who's around you.